Recently I had a counseling session with a young couple who were dating and I listened to what each of them had to say about “the issue” at hand. I let them talk, or should I say accuse and attack, and after about 5 minutes of the continuous absence of consideration for each other, I stepped in. Neither person was hearing the other and for me it was creating an atmosphere of drama and chaos. It was obvious, they were depending on the other person to make them happy and to feel good about who they were! Needless to say, our moments left together were about just that……… You can’t give the power of your happiness to anyone, you will always lose that battle!                               I wish someone would have told me that earlier, I might of thought a little better of myself or made different choices. It’s everyone’s desire to be happy, isn’t that what we all say to ourselves? I challenge you to ask yourself what do you  think “happy” is? I believe it’s simply to have peace and comfort in knowing you are doing and being what you are supposed to be. With that said, it has nothing to do with someone else, it’s my journey and revelation of who I am and what God has for me to do!         The truth is, there is no way anyone can help us to be happy if we truly don’t know who we are. We should never give someone the power to our happiness, it’s not theirs to have in the first place. If I know who I am and where I am supposed to go, no one will be able to change my direction.                                                   Getting to “that place” takes time and the willingness to be alone with God and self. Most of us don’t want to wait that long. I believe this is why most of us are in  relationships that are dysfunctional, co-dependent, or just plain draining! We didn’t do it on purpose, we did it out of desire, fear, hurt or just plain loneliness. The good news is if you are single, you can still take the time and really search and ask God to show you “You”! He can comfort the loneliness and give you the wisdom where you need to re-in force the weak spots. It isn’t easy, but the time spent now with HIM, will save you a faith-walk later in getting out of a bad situation! If you are married, God can do anything that two people are in agreement about. The key word, agreement….. I’m not going to sugar coat this, sometimes flesh decisions can be the hardest faith walks ever! We have to die to our flesh choices and trust God, as a married couple, we both end up agreeing and walk it out together.                                         Wherever your journey finds you now, God can still show you who YOU are to HIM. If we take the time to really seek these things, the people in our lives won’t have the power to control our happiness. We will be happy in knowing who we are supposed to be and that we are doing what we are supposed to be doing! People who are truly happy, they attract the “right” kind of people!